Real life dating vs online dating
When you meet in real life, you know you’ve already stood out in the crowd, which is why you started dating in the first place. Because we’ve all been burned at least once or twice online before, we have walls up and we keep our feelings locked in for a longer period of time before we feel at ease.When you meet in the real world, you’ve taken that mentality off the table right from the bat.She's a cliche lover of wine, sushi, all things Parisian and spiking her coffee with Baileys.You all may remember the unexpectedly popular post I had last time on AM asking if people would use a hypothetical dating site where only women could initiate messaging (for those curious for an update, I've decided I don't want to make it).
Most people in real life dating do not meet each other and instantly start pointing out something that may be wrong with that person.
That’s not to say you won’t still have walls up, but you don’t feel as much like you’re in a competition, and you feel truly like two people who are interested in getting to know each other more. Because there’s less sense of competition and needing to stand out as the nicest item in the catalog, you’ll feel calmer in taking your time getting to know the person, and in what you reveal about yourself.
Even if in the beginning we’re all putting our best foot forward to be best-in-show, we’re all a little more ourselves when we start out in the real world.
You stop perusing your online “catalog.” When you don’t meet online, there’s less temptation to continue swiping (just in case) because you’ve gotten a sense of who the person is in real life right off the bat.
You get their true physical appearance (not a 5-year-old picture or perfectly angled selfie) and overall vibe from the moment you start chatting.