Difference between courting and dating
Because it means exclusivity, courtship needs to be a short period of time, and have a definitive end. Otherwise, you risk hurting each other in a way you do not wish to, but can simply because you are not yet married.It risks looking like and acting like you are married, when you have not formally made the commitment.This ensures that hearts are not too invested beyond repair, and that both persons are able to become available to new persons.Another reason courtship is usually entered into when both are pretty certain they have found the one is because the reality of starting over from scratch with a new person and going through the process again is draining and deflating. When you have done it once, you are not inclined to do it again. So courtship should not be used interchangeably with dating, and should not be entered into lightly.
Dating today has sadly become a free-for-all of perpetual samplers, which no intention to buy (make a permanent commitment).
You have realized you want to be married and have learned more about yourself and the kind of person you are attracted to from your dating experience. In fact, they unfortunately allow themselves to cheapen their offering by showing they only want to sample, and never purchase. I know a man who told me he goes in there to have lunch by partaking in all the sample stations, and then leaves.
As if Costco is in business to hand out free lunches. To “sell” the product they are allowing people to sample.
I think a single Christian person using “courtship” to describe their dating life wants to psychologically believe they are doing something a little better, a bit more nobler than merely “dating”.
These two words, however, should NOT be used interchangeably.