Dating women emotional baggage
She has trouble talking about her feelings or the relationship.
She may appear to be diving into the relationship headfirst at some points, but then, suddenly withdraws.
She doesn’t respond to your texts or calls, doesn’t initiate any sort of contact with you for a few days, a week or even two.
Then when she finally gets back to you she has a million excuses for dropping off the grid: work was crazy, her family or friends needed her.
Some women struggle with lifelong emotional unavailability stemming from mental illness, a troubled childhood, or a history of sexual, physical or verbal abuse.
Unfortunately, the trauma of childhood sexual abuse can induce a chronic distrust of men and a sense of self-preservation that doesn’t allow them to get to too close with a romantic partner out of fear that he will hurt her the same way that she was hurt in her past.
Additionally, be wary if she doesn’t let you tell anyone about your dates because of complex reasons such as, “My insane ex might find out and cause trouble.” Everything is great at first, she texts you all the time and is eager to make plans to see you, but then suddenly all goes quiet.
In this case, it’s not at all her fault that she has trouble with intimacy, and if you are so in love with her that you’re willing to dedicate yourself to helping her through her emotional struggles, feel free to do so.
However, recognize that this is a difficult position to put yourself in and that it will come with some hardships.
You deserve someone who is emotionally available and who prioritizes your relationship.
If the relationship was meant to be sometime in the future when she is available, it will.