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When I started dating my very first boyfriend as a sophomore in high school, I was adamant that I pay for my own meals. This became such a point of contention that we eventually broke up over an otherwise enjoyable night of thai (that he insisted on paying for).
Once I started dating online after college, I found myself in many similar situations.
sometimes a man wants to pay and doesn’t understand my nod to gender equity.”So men and women who want to split the bill for ideological reasons must fight not only traditional gender norms but also the de facto “code” of dating itself.
To many, when the man offers to pay and his date graciously accepts, it’s a sign of mutual interest.
Guys, for the most part, say they’re picking up the tab (59%). About one in five say that they expect their date to pay. The remaining female members (23%) choose to skip the question entirely.
This makes the question of paying the bill one of the most skipped questions on Ok Cupid; for reference, people skip the question “How do you feel about anal sex” only 3% more often.
The most common comment among both men and women was that it was the “chivalrous” or “gentlemanly” thing to do.
The date-asker treats his date because she took a chance on him and gave him the opportunity to woo her.Clearly, the subject of bill-paying is rather touchy.To figure out why there’s such a taboo around the tab, we decided to send out a follow-up survey.But women still want to be pursued, and I think men are still most comfortable in the role of pursuers…and paying the check is the biggest symbol we have that a man is interested in a woman and values her company and time.”Unfortunately, this tradition makes straying from the norm difficult.