Dating too many guys
I’m not the typical “guy” who posts shirtless pictures of himself on dating sites or sends unsolicited pictures of his genitals to random women.
But I am a guy who is fond of online dating sites, so I have a few tips that might help you when using them.
I found it easy to be vulnerable and to let a guy get close to me in dating because I was hopeful it would lead to love. I didn’t give myself over to guys as easily or as quickly. Why would I keep giving and giving when I wasn’t getting anything back? I decided I would see what they were willing to give first and then act accordingly. Unfortunately, I wasn’t finding any open, vulnerable men. I tried really hard to stay emotionally removed from guys, but all that really happened was I acted immaturely in relationships. Stupid, childish crap, and yet there I was acting like a baby.
Of course, it didn’t take long for relationships and heartbreak to ruin all that. Trying to get over your very first heartbreak is the absolute worst. I made them work a little to get to know me because I didn’t want to get hurt again. I’ve always been pretty good at verbal communication. I’m sorry that you can’t form sentences that make sense, but I can’t pull the words out of you or guess what you mean. It was like I regressed more every time I dated someone new. Dating turned into a game of sorts, and I hate playing games, thus I came to hate dating.
As a result, they destroyed the network of decent matches.I don’t know of any other guys who actually took the surveys on there (like I did eagerly); I also know few women who took the surveys for more than a dozen questions.So, what I’m saying here is that dating online became tougher — the common denominator lowered and therefore interfered with the quality of matches I and others would receive.I was lucky enough that my first boyfriend was gentle with me. Even if I didn’t go there right away, I never made them feel bad or unwanted. Maybe it’s because I can do enough talking for both of us. I want a man who can keep up with me and who is excited by my strength, not scared by it. I figured that I’m never going to meet the guy who gives me his whole heart as readily and happily as I’m willing to give mine. I’m extraordinarily cynical when it comes to relationships.I don’t consider it cool or intriguing when a guy treats me like I’m disposable so I’d never do that to him. Whether it was out of insecurity, bitterness, or cynicism, they weren’t giving back the same amount of affection that I was giving them. Some of them simply weren’t capable of breaking down their own walls, but it still sucked. I definitely don’t want someone who curls up into a little ball when we have problems. Now I don’t even know how to be vulnerable anymore. I don’t even know if I can deal with the right guy if he ever comes along.