Dating man in love
Find out if I actually like this guy who just climbed my hair. ” From books, film, and TV — even from my own family — I’d absorbed this lesson about women turning frogs into princes.
It didn’t happen through a single kiss, mind you, but through enormous effort devoted to sorting your man out, whether he liked it or not.
It’s a sort of cultural joke, this idea that men “need help” and that it’s their partner’s job to provide it.
That said, I’m not sure exactly who the punchline is for.
I’d stay in relationships that weren’t working, with people who clearly were not invested, because I thought I could work hard and invest enough for both of us.
I put precious energy into being the perfect possibility, hoping they couldn’t help but be drawn into my orbit.owadays, I try to ignore the mirages sparkling in the distance.
I’m not perfect, but I’m a good friend and partner.
I have an abundant life, full of opportunities I’m happy to share, and I work hard at myself and my relationships. So why try to convince someone who doesn’t want me otherwise? Not when my life is already a feast in a crowded, lively house.
I’m not to judge that one is better than the other, and mind you, my observations are based on my own experiences as well as a group of women I’ve interviewed in the last two years.I have gone to extraordinary lengths to make people love me.I loved my first real partner, the man I lived with in graduate school, because he was a delightful combination of strong and gentle.So, I’ve turned to fixing myself rather than other people.In the process, I’ve seen how focusing on a mirage of the future made me overlook pretty shitty behavior in the present.