Dating a woman with genital herpes
Also, to all the "hell no, I'm squeaky clean forever" people, if you've had sex, you have HPV and could wake up with anal warts in 10 years even if you never kiss a girl again.
They reinforce the impulse of scared, raw people to hate themselves and hide from the rest of the world.
It's ugly, but you can do everything else you could before, save for some precaution.
But that's for other people's sake, not your own.
If you mean that the stress of a diagnosis will effect you emotionally or mentally, then okay. I'm not a herpes virologist, so my numbers could be a little off, but something like 75% of sexually active adults have been infected with herpes. Sometimes people have one or two outbreaks at first, and then it never causes lesions again. BUT Valtrex is a pretty awesome drug, and if there is no active lesions, and your pert er is taking Valtrex..would be very difficult to catch. The herpes virus has been around since like Roman times.
But again, the effects of it's influence on you mental and emotional state is entirely dependent on how you come to terms with it. Everyone has a right to decide whether or not they wish to be exposed to a disease and risk contracting it. Also, HSV-1 and HSV-2 are so similar that virologists are beginning to believe that they are the same virus. But herpes wasn't really a thing that people cared about until the mid 70's when a drug company developed a treatment for it.
In a world where we are judged for having a sexually transmitted condition, telling a new partner about herpes means risking a rejection that plenty of herpes people would rather avoid. There is a market for these services, and I don’t want to dismiss the experiences of the people who use them. I don’t mean to knock the insecurities of people with herpes: I want to address the companies that profit off of them.It's going to make the pool of people willing to date you in the future smaller - even if you don't get bad symptoms.The fact that people consider it a dealbreaker isn't just an issue when considering dating this one person put before you, it's also a consideration that everyone else will make in regards to conclusion is "yes, I'll give it a shot" - if you get it you get it, and congratulations you've just made life harder on yourself. If she doesn't respect OP's bodily integrity and his right to decide whether or not he wants to put himself in this position, she's not OP's friend to begin with.But it's sounding like you're implying that the disease affects your brain. And not being clear enough about that is only insinuating myth and adding to the already disproportional social stigma that already comes with this relatively harmless disease. And that friend is being shitty for trying to shame him for making a completely fair decision. The drug company stigmatized herpes (which where just called cold sores at that point) so they could sell herpes treatments, since there was no market for cold sore treatments. A combination of condoms, antivirals, and avoiding sex during outbreaks makes the odds of transmission really, really low, like 1% annually or something.Seriously, I would strongly advise you get actual data on stds before coming to these kinds of conclusions, as most stds aren't that big of a deal.