Books about dating men
Y'all put the police to shame, make the little investigative tricks they show on CSI and Law & Order: SVU look like counting lessons on Sesame Street.” ― “Women can go over it again and again in their minds, finding all kinds of deficiencies in themselves-"I didn't do this right," "I wasn't good enough," "I didn't love him the way I should," "she came in here and outperformed me"-but the fact still remeinas that he didn't have any business cheating.
So women need to realease themselves from the blame of a cheating man's actions-just do that for yourselves.
On a smaller scale she also made it clear that she expected to be treated like a lady at every turn-I'm talking opening car doors for her, pulling out her seat when she's ready to sit at the table, coming correct on anniversary, Mother's Day, and birthday gifts, keeping the foul talk to a minimum.
These requirements are important to her because they lay out a virtual map of what I need to do to make sure she gets what she needs and wants.
You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord's green earth-you're capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you're independent (which means, to him, that you're not going to be in his pockets)-but if he's not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.” ― “I'm sure that if woman laid out the rules- requirements- early on, and let her intended know that he could either rise up to those requirements, or just move on.
A directive like that signals to a man that you are not a plaything-someone to be used and discarded.
This, I think, is a great analogy for how men seek out women.” ― “Now, revealing that you're a keeper is no guarantee that this guy won't just walk away.
Some men really are just sport fishing and have no intention of doing anything more than throwing back the women they bed.
And it is my sole mission in life to make sure Marjorie is happy.” ― “Providing for the ones he loves and care about, whether it's monetarily or with sweat equity, is part of a man's DNA, and if he loves and cares for you, this man will provide for you all these things with no limits.” ― “A man fishes for two reasons: he’s either sport fishing or fishing to eat, which means he’s either going to try to catch the biggest fish he can, take a picture of it, admire it with his buddies and toss it back to sea, or he’s going to take that fish on home, scale it, fillet it, toss it in some cornmeal, fry it up, and put it on his plate.The same philosophy can be applied to dating: if putting your requirements on the table means you risk him walking away, it's a risk you have to take.Because that fear can trip you up every time; all too many of you let the guy get away with disrespecting you, putting in minimal effort and holding on to the commitment to you because you're afraid he's going to walk away and you'll be alone again. We recognize this and play on it, big time.” ― “I'm here to tell you, though, ladies that the term "gold digger" is one of the traps we men set to keep you off our money trail; we created that term for you so that we can have all our money and still get everything we want from you without you asking for or expecting this very basic, instincual responsibility that men all over the world are obligated to assume and embrace. KNOW THIS: It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exhange for your time.” ― “You're an investigator - can't nobody find stuff out like a woman.Tell him straight up: "I need you here to protect and provide for us, to give us security in our lives, to help raise these children, to set an example for this boy, who needs to see what real men do, and for this girl, who needs to know what a real man is so she can find one of her own someday.I need you to be the head of this family."Lay it out like this, and your requirements will trump his mother's every time.” ― “Newsflash: it's not the guy who determines whether you're a sports fisher or a keeper-it's you.