Beautiful women hard time dating
We worked on how to have conversations of substance, find fun in the exploration of depth, voice her needs and not be afraid to let others down just because she has a different opinion, expectation or idea.
She had to stop being ok with “good enough” and believe she deserved better.
In that article, I explained my hypothesis that women are stuck in a double-bind between what they are told through modern social norms and their own biological motivation.
This week, I will discuss how that double-bind for women may have resulted in a double-bind for men as well.
She is constantly asked why she’s still single and receives offers to be set up with your brother, your nephew or your best friend. As soon as she allowed herself to show her true self, as opposed to the self she shows off for public consumption, third dates turned into fourth and fifth dates.
Yet, she is somehow forgettable, and he quickly loses interest. More than the lineup of men ready to commit, Danielle felt comfortable in her own skin for the first time.
She brings in an annual income of 0,000 from her business as a motivational speaker and author. Jessica is a 34-year old UCLA medical school graduate with an active social circle of equally intelligent women and a thriving OB/GYN practice. Yet, she continued to be “ghosted” by men she had felt had the potential to become great relationship material.
In an attempt to please, she has lowered her standards when it comes to men.
Those who fall into the first category have been ingrained with the idea that they must publicly embody perfection at all times. They are interesting, intelligent, successful and strong. Perfect makes others feel like they have nothing to add, so they are not needed. Danielle and I worked on how to be vulnerable without losing her confidence.
Men would love to bring this type of woman home to their mothers and show off to their bosses. She needed to learn how to allow a man to see behind the curtain, beyond the facade of “I don’t need you,” and beneath the “I can do it myself” veneer.
In contrast, if men shun social pressures to be "nice" and follow what is biologically attractive, they have a higher likelihood of getting "sex partners".
However, these men are often punished by being socially labeled as "jerks", "players", or even "creeps", unfit for socially-defined relationships.