50 red flags of dating
But I'm back..that will never happen again, not ever! No, seriously, you are able to move on now and you are aware and it won't happen again.
I lost 20 years of my life, including my soul, and my uterus (not kidding…hysterectomy..gave me all kinds of infections resulting in many gyne problems from his long term overseas hooker habit that i didn't know about until after he said he was leaving).
The red flag is your recognizing what he was doing and calling him on it. Perhaps wanting to isolate is also a warning of danger.
The fact that he turned it back on you is enough to tell you he wasn't being truthful with you or committed to the relationship. A good man would not want to have the relationships you mentioned.
Often these are clues that something may be trouble in the future.Or the female friend who was also friends with his ex-wife (with whom I got along great, by the way) and every time I was around, the friend gave me the silent treatment or exclude me from the conversation (which of course my partner never noticed) This guy would swear I tried to separate him from his friends.That is why articles discussing this issue, without any clarification, can cause more damage than not.There are several more appealing articles out there. Not only the points, which are absolutely to the T, but also the last paragraph with the "He told me so, but I just didn't listen." Sometimes, most times our own expectations are our worse enemy, and can bring about the biggest harm, making us stay in situations we wouldn't otherwise. When a man says "I don't love you and I never will", just listen to him, don't try to figure out what subterfuge he's playing, he's not. People who have never been in this situation have no idea at all what it's like, being sucked in, love bombed, devaued and discarded, endless mind games and psychological abuse.AND MORE IMPORTANTLY: If anyone out there is struggling with a partner in a monogamous relationship, please please please seek help from an authorized therapist and follow their advice. I am strong and I thought I could win the battles and it wouldnt affect me long term, but even though I escaped..months later when trying to 'recover' and move on, I find that I have been damaged in ways I never thought I would be.